A few weeks ago I wrote that I was going to use the book 5: Where will you be five years from today? to guide some posts. After a hideous first week back to work, I feel like this needs to become even more of a priority for me. I want to explore where it is I hope to be 5 years from now and what I need to do to get there.
What are the 3 things I like the most and least about myself?
- I dislike the fact that I cannot hide my opinions and feelings. My face might as well be a computer screen with every thought I have typed across the screen. If you are upsetting me, you can tell. If I am tired, irritated, angry, or embarrassed, you can tell. It would be nice to be able to keep my thoughts to myself once in a while
- I dislike my lazy streak. So many times, I prefer to sit around, watch TV, and just be lazy. I wish I was more of a go-getter.
- I dislike the way I look. I’ve been unhappy with my weight for, well, most of my life. This is something I’ve spent a lot of time over the last year working on, and it’s something that is getting better, but I still have days where I feel like I haven’t lost a thing. I feel like everyone who meets me or sees me still sees me 65lbs ago. I’m not really sure how to overcome this feeling. Maybe it’s something that will gradually disappear, or maybe it will be a part of me for the rest of my life. When I’m having those days, I try to think positive and recognize that I’m currently weighing in around where I did my freshman year of high school. I’m smaller than I was 10 years ago. I’m hoping to continue that trend, but I still dislike the way I look.
- I like that I care about my job. This week was rough because of a professional development meeting where we were told (I’m paraphrasing here) that our students are not progressing as they should be and we need to work harder to make sure they are learning. This had me and many of my coworkers truly frustrated. I work hard, always. I care about my job. Not about what my boss thinks or how well-liked I am, but I care about the kids. I don’t teach because it makes me rich (trust me, it doesn’t) it’s because I truly care about my students and I want to help them to succeed. This means that I’m often exhausted and sometimes feel defeated, but at least when I go to bed at night I don’t have to worry that I’m letting my students down or that I’m hurting their future.
- I like that I am an independent person. My parents tease me that I was born independent and stubborn; I like to do things my way. I was born 6 weeks early, and apparently since then I’ve been the master of my own life…well, at least the way my parents tell the story. I do like that my happiness is not dependent upon other people, I am the key to my own happiness. I like that I trust myself, even when I don’t trust others. If I’m unsure about something, I wait to make a decision. I trust my gut feelings. Don’t get me wrong, I have many people in my life who are important to me and whose advice I trust, but in the end, I have to be the one to be happy. At the same time, I do not wait for other people to clean up my messes; if something isn’t right in my life, I fix it myself.
- I like that I am intelligent. I don’t know how to say that without sounding conceited, but I feel like I am an intelligent person. It’s not just schooling though, I learn from my mistakes in life and do my best not to repeat them. I learn how to do things for myself, even if I need some guidance at first. I wish I trusted my intelligence a little more often and didn’t let people make me question myself, but in the end, I recognize that I am a smart person and I can handle myself.